2018-05-12 - 9:56 p.m.
I have been reading poets
Does the poet WANT me to be disturbed
by the reality that
was taken from his mother?
Maybe it is part of the impact of his poems
the unarticulated question
as when reading his brilliant poems
It makes me seek to know who Jim Limber is
and the poem of the boy called Jim now wearing Joe's clothes, read after reading the almost rural legand (Southern version of urban myth),
is heartwrenching in that omission
of the question
Who was the boy
BEFORE he was taken from his family, presuming the guardian might have been one...
and the question of brutality of the beating
was it so
and was this act one of compassion
of saving this boy now called Jim
or was it an act of tearing a child from his imperfect mother/or guardian who was mothering in the norms of the time for her African American mother or careprovider/ guardian.
It just strikes me that from my experience with friends and also some of what I ready, physical discipline may in fact be a cultural norm in African American communities and families more so that European decent families in North America.
My friend was recently telling me how her friend who happens to be African, (distinct from African American) disciplines her child with physical discipline- a quick smack, and her kids actually seem to be all doing quite well. She said one was sassy at one point and made a call to social services to complain about her mother. CPS showed up and the mother told the CPS person that she intended to continue to teach and train and discipline her children as she saw fit, but if they would not support her doing so she would be happy to tell her daughter to pack her bags and just leave with them now. She said it was to be very clear to her daughter that if she lives under her roof she is to follow her rules.
all that being said-
EVEN If a parent were abusive- if it is the biological parent
it seems so much more compassionate to a child
and MUCH HEALTHIER for a child in the long run
to try to offer that parent some support so that a young child is not taken away from their
taken away from their family
ORPHANED at a young age unnecessarily.
SO the poem makes me want to know the story behind the taking of JIM from his family into that of Jefferson Davis.
The poem made me quickly do some research and react with shock at the horrific reality that perhaps this child was taken due to a cultural difference in parenting.
Perhaps it WAS abuse! Perhaps it was a beating...
But perhaps there was really just a judgement by some who only had the perspective of their own cultural norms ,from their own white backgrounds,
that the situation this boy was in was unfit
Perhaps that fear was unfounded?
It is impossible to know.
But I found the poem, just so very Southern
YES very Southern
In the questions that were not overly raised but merely implied.