2021-11-05 - 9:09 a.m.
I am annoyed at myself.
I intentionally set up a SEPARATE phone for work
The reason is that with my ADHD I DID NOT want to use the same phone for work and personal life and have to carry it EVERYWHERE as that increases the risk of LOSS
So for work the phone is used for mulitifactor authentication purposes for a number of supplier systems, and end client systems, and a number of secure systems which require such.
I NEVER Take my work phone OUT OF THE HOUSE for that particular managment of it reason ( managing my own ADHD.)
and have to clean house and then it turns up.
HOWEVER I MADE A MISTAKE of heading out for a Dr. Appt with a kid and because my personal phone was in the basement on my desk and we were at the front door AND beacuse when I took my DOG on the walk QUICK BREAK in the middle of work day when I EXPECTED A possible call from a contract manager I was in the middle of a negotiation with-
I CARRIED the work phone from my WORK DESK with me on the dog walk-
THEN I PLACED THE PHONE ON THE SHELF BY THE FRONT DOOR.
I KNOW I DID THIS
So then when went to the DR. Office I GRABBED THAT PHONE thinking "just in case my boss or anyone else calls me" EVEN THOUGH I already worked my hrs that day; I already tied up loose ends
I mean it was a day she took off early
SO I carried the damn phone to Dr. Office.
I SWEAR I recall
BUT THEN I AM DAMN SURE I RECALL coming back in the house and PLACING IT ON THE SHELF
And it is not there.
This is driving me crazy
In particular as it happened when my bestie showed up and entered without knocking and left a note
Which MY KID freaked out at me about when I got home.
asking "What the hell is she entering without knocking or ringing the bell and us answering. I heard her walking downstairs and was like ' What the hell ? WHO IS HERE? as knew you and XX( sibling) were out" IT was !(#&!! "XXX" (Bestie) and she left you a note."
NOW I expect the walking around was to find paper and pen and leave me a note.
THIS IS MY BESTIE WHO LIVED WITH ME FOR YEARS
SO I said " Hey its "BESTIE" I have no issue - but I GET IT YOU DO so will talk to her"
Which I will... but her phone was out of service at the time....
NOW it is just aggrevating once again to have something disappear when the only other person who happened to have showed up in our space is her.
I HATE THAT
The thing is there is nothing one could do with a phone that is locked.
And I never used this phone for INTERNET EVER
NEVER did anything with it other than accept call and the authentication msgs .
There is NO VULNERABILITY of anyone else finding this phone.
I Never even fully set it up so it has no accoutramnets or apps.
I mean unless someone wipes it and starts over with it-
It has a google fi #
SO there is a locator service.
I JUST EXPECT IT TO BE IN MY HOME SOMEWHERE! To have fallen and to be discovered
So trying to clean house.
I have to log into work this AM - after quick walk with my dog
BUT VENTING As my system of this dedicated phone WORKED FOR ME WHEN I WAS DILIGENT WITH MY PROCESS
THAT WORKED FOR ME
and I !@($&$! DEVIATED FROM IT
and I HATE THAT as it is likely due to my own ADHD I lost it
MAYBE I left it in my car? Maybe I forgot to lock my car?
MAYBE It was lifted from there?
BUT I HATE THE WORRY it was "borrowed" ( From my friend) I mean I HATE She shared with me that when younger she was a bit of a clepto
( and I KNOW this is not just ME but there was a CASE for return of a borrowed item someone brought in a courthouse here- someone that lived with her a bit
SO I KNOW it is a PATTERN)
I MEAN if that is an issue she has I honestly don't worry and accept her and love having her in my world
EVEN IF THAT IS AN ACTUAL ISSUE
I am not excessively worried
and not paranoid by any means ( I mean enough of a pattern for the fear to be reasonable. AND ENough evidence of her boundary issues--
the giving of dishes away that belonged to a friend who DID benefit from her help in downsizing--
She also has a habit of dropping off thing she things we would like. ( Its a bit annoying as she MEANS Well but often I wash the whole bag of clothing only to donate all but one or two things)
I mean it is more work than worth it
BUT I KNOW her Robin Hood habits are well intended.
She is definitely an odd bird; unique and colorful
So it is not even really a BELIEF That she is at all involved in what I am sure is a misplacing of my phone on my part ( and likely to show up)
BUT IT IS THE KERNAL OF THE THOUGHT HAPPENING AT ALL
Goes back to shit disappeared I did not take from my Ex husband from our home ( like his family cast iorn cooking pans; and the brass fire set that disappeared after I moved out shit with my besties help YEARS AGO. HE is convinced she stole those items- as I never took them)
NOw this also happened when I was moving at that time any my then BOYFRIEND I had started dating ( after the separation year during which I was in the home and my then husband was BANNED from the home due to his behavior at time...) when he was "helping" me move and he packed up the fucking Speaker cabinets
THAT MY THEN FATHER IN LAW had made!
I was like "What the hell?" I think he did it without me even knowing at the time as I was busy in the other fucking side of house MOPPING AND CLEANING To try to leave the place in a nice condition.
(HELL I recalled when my first marraige ended and I was out of the apt for my then husband to get his shit and I came back when he was done as planned but he moved all the shit and did not clean and it was MESS With the dirt and dust and debris and that felt like an assault. IT was SO PAINFUL and I never forget my BUFFALO BESTIE showing up with flowers and cleaning supplies to quickly CLEAN with me. She was so amazing of a support. I will never forget that moment- both how painful and how supporting a best friend can be in such a moment.)
OK OFF TO the dog walk and work.
WILL GIVE IT THIS WEEKEND TO CLEAN THE HOUSE ( dang of course it is a weekend we have !@!$ +*! of stuff going on... HS FOOTBALL GAME; SENIOR NIGHT ; I WORK... I Have volutneer work to get done - minutes to type for the Art ORG; Folks to call to see if they are still planning on being in our church and want names in directory.... etc..... an ARTICLE I WANTED TO WRITE and a web site I WANTED TO GET UP AND RUNNING for MY CONSULTING BUSINESS...
I have a sound perspective to share that will give others guidance in the space I work in.
I haven't' found time to write the article-
SO instead pitched the idea-- rather shared the perspective at the professional org I am involved in and we are working on getting a few experts together to run a panel.
SEE if you can't get it done yourself COLLABORATE and get it out there in the universe somehow
I said on the call "I wish someone would be decisive and not afraid to provide direction. I am NOT A LAWYER but perhaps a Compliance Lawyer would do so."
I think I influenced the space well enough....
I expect an article any day now out of that practice (or from someone he knows that he discusses with).
It will be awesome for them and bring them business potentially as a leader providing guidance when everyone is AFRAID TO.
I gave him the seed.
Just my last vent here...
I do not want small bus to be thrown under the bus as they don't have a clue how to handle some of the current situations regarding Covid and Compliance.
My plug here to be @$*!&! decisive and not wait for guidance but follow up on any accommodation requests.
All you need is ONE person to file a lawsuit and stick with it and you are looking at 50K plus in legal fees.
Just follow the darn ADA.
It is so damn clear and not hard peeps.
WAIT AND SEE is a BAD IDEA.
Cause, trust me on this, there ARE folks our there WILLING To invest to have their right to work as a disabled person respected-
That makes me nervous frankly for the small businesses.
AS IT IS SUCH AN AVOIDABLE DISPUTE
JUST SAY NO DECISIVELY To the rest of the unfounded claims
Short term accommodations are advised under EEOC while seeking guidance of MEDICAL EVIDENCE
No time to drill down here but you can read this for guidance. I WANT To write a CONSISE CLEAR TARGETED article addressing ONLY THAT ISSUE of WHAT EMPLOYERS SHOULD DO ( as so few are willing to provide that guidance!) JUST from BUSINESS PERSPECTIVE and from perspective of one with a disability familiar enough with ADA who has had RIGHT TO SUE in past from employment discrimination against me. ( I let it drop at the time and found a better job with more pay after some time as at the time HAD NO ENERGY to continue to pursue. WHAT IS UNIQUE NOW is that I think there are HIGH WAGE WHITE COLLAR WORKERS WHO WILL NOT GIVE UP AND HAVE RESOURCES TO PERSUE ADA VIOLATIONS . CAN INDUSTRY JUST FIX THE PROBLEM WITHOUT THAT PLEASE???? )
It reduces your risk as an employer to grant even a short term while reviewing a claim as opposed to DOING NOTHING.
So here is the draft of my article I intend to professionally write on my business blog-
The past few weeks were dang busy and time was not there.
LAST Week shuttled kid to THREE Dr. Appts.
THIS Week shuttled to FOUR Dr. Appts.
NO Joke Managing POTS is a part time Job.
The energy to get to and from DR. is not to be underestimated for a person with POTS.
BUT NECESSARY To do that FIRST AND FOREMOST.
IN GOOD NEWS My kid is doing GREAT of late.
That is why HAVE ENERGY To follow up on some recommended testing that was never done. This week was ALLERGIST
And the Dr. I brought the whole Family to is KICKING GOOD.
She not only concurred with the MCAS diagnosis but very quickly drilled down to a particular kind of Masticosis ( I think is the right word?) that she happens to have researched 20 yrs ago that is exceptionally rare and my kid shows all the symptoms of.
She is darn sharp and we hit the right DR.
She also will talk to the Dysautonomia specialist as suggests discontinuing some medications that can have LONG TERM BRAIN DEVELOPMENT CONCERNS
and has other recommendation for one medication that may be more helpful with less potential long term side effects.
ONCE AGAIN SO HAPPY I AM WORKING PART TIME AND HAVE ABILITY TO CARE FOR MY FAMILY by tending to their needs first and foremost.
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