2022-05-13 - 1:19 p.m.
The question of enabling was raised by my oldest who said they took the book Codependent No More out of the library. They like to randomly open it and read whatever is there the way some play so called Bible Bingo for guidance..
What is Codependency?
Is it really Codependent or is it just love if you have a friend who has not yet called a Dr. To make an appointment about the pain thst may be kidney pain...
Cause they thought the VA Dr. Was a narcissistic idiot dismissive and condescending and humiliated when last saw the Dr.
And you are bossy and say
And friend says. " great to tell doneone what to do. But that is not the she as offering a solution. Are you going to bring me cranberry juice?"
To which my initial response was. " You can go to the store"
But then I said....
Of not going yo the Dr. In time
Of ignoring they need help
Of refusing to help themselves
CALL IT ENABLING IF YOU Want
If being manipulative well then sure it is Codependency.
But at the sane time in the end my friend also is an 🎨 and a damn good one at that. It did not occur to me until yesterday that the arts org has a fundraising auction and I could ask him to donate a painting.
He was saying he had so much stuff to go through just weeks ago.
Yesterday I thought to ask AFTER I invited him to be my date gor the event. I bought two tix to bring him with me.
He said he has a painting but trouble us not framed. He was not going to donate unless tge frame is decent as well.
I know he bought dome fruit trees and Wed was busy planting them.
In any case I happen to have not one but two frames the size of his painting that I bought and never used.
So I will bring cranberry juice and a frame and he may have a piece to donate. I think it will be fun if he does.
So like most relationships there is the give and take of helping and supporting each other.
I dud read part of the book and it really just did not resonate with me at all.
I don't ever feel this great need to save or control others.
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