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2022-06-02 - 9:08 a.m. I have to kick up my business development. I also am aware of my fears... so address them. Its more obvious in some instances when folks have boundary issues. First concern : To not have an unhealthy relationship with either kids or romantic partner- AVOID codependency or enmeshment https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/enmeshment-signs-and-how-to-heal/
Knowing that some of my kids have had their Dad show that behaviour of putting down others all the time- (OK sometimes that is warranted... but sometimes..... Sure there was slope issue and that was a good call to make that re-done eventually you realize it is the problem of the guy.... I mean the old neighbor was just creating BEAUTY in the world NOT out to claim adverse possession of the 6 inches where the marigolds were planted. Dr. Romani is such a great resource to understand about narcissism. I mean narcissim is an overused word yet there are many REAL diagnosable narcissists out there to be avoided! https://www.healthline.com/health/malignant-narcissism#abuse
I really should have a life where those concerns are behind me and I don't have distractions or lack of respect or anyone pushing my boudaries or tying to make me responsible for their emotional wellness in my life. Pleain and simple. If one avoids the narcissist or the person without boundaries *( due to whatever their issues are) life is DRAMA free and MUCH happier and peaceful. IF those folks are in your FAMILY or your social world already and you want to keep them there- and can't just separate from them first ask OR is it a reasonable act of love to keep this person in my life? WHY? Why is it reasonable and worth it? Maybe it is actually not. I do think therapy is an awesome tool and think it would be great to invest in myself for that as honestly I HAVE NOT DONE SO. YES That is the take away for me. I not only need to continue on my carving out of personal space to heal- via The Artist's Way journey I am on which is so fabulous. I also need to enter therapy. That can only help. I am not going to take on other's emotional well being. That is their journey and those without boundaries don't get that AT ALL sometimes. � � |