2022-07-18 - 8:44 p.m.
I was updating my company info on a site; but I keep accidentally swiping ( when I don't mean to!) and closing the web page OR
Data entry is really boring.
I did work starting at 7AM today at the retirement community. So no wonder I am tired.
I had to register my site somewhere pretty important for professional development so vowed to GET IT DONE! today BEFORE engaging in volunteer work.
I got an email request Thu to help out with some volunteer work. I was out of office Friday and super busy moving my kid into her apt; then back to go to work at the retirement community Sunday and yesterday.
I am exhausted. The moving my kid was tiring! The youngest came with me to help and we ended up crashing on makeshift beds (I used a sleeping bag) on the floor of her brand new apt as it was around 11pm when we finished bringing in the last of her stuff into the new apt.
The last item was the small couch which we had to scrub clean and sanitized! Mice had gotten into the storage unit!
Seems gross- but I bought oxyclean and bought a new trash can and filled that with HOT HOT water and scrubbed the heck out of that old used once college owned insustrial grade furniture which truth be told was well designed with very sturdy and thick upolstry which cleaned up decently.
Some would have tossed the darn couch, argued with the storage unit owner...etc...
My kid saw the state of the couch she said "Oh now I know why when I moved in they asked me if I needed a plastic cover for any furniture"
YEAH They sell them there.
I MEAN THERE HAS TO BE as this unit had a few inches gap at the top of the unit. Just wide open- as if by design for air flow.
SO there HAS to be known issues of mice being able to roam in and out-
I told my kid she CAN look up the insurance policy and read it and try to file a claim for loss of the couch.
IT seemed OK. She is ordering a cover for it.
The thing smelled and looked clean by the time we were done with it!
So on Sat I thought I had to work at 2:30 pm. The plan was to drive back early to go to work.
She was apologetic in a way as she didn't check with me ahead of time and said she realized she forgot to confirm that change was OK. I had told her schedule me whenever needed! BUT somehow that shift (I have been on afternoon shift on weekends for past couple of years! I did not complain as that leaves me free for church duties to help out on Sun mornings).
Well I think my boss was looking out for me frankly but we just failed to have good communicaiton!
OR IT IS SIMPLY My MISTAKE and I did not read the schedule carefully ? (But I don't think so... to be honest. I think she originally had me on the afternoon when I transcribed the schedule but it was later updated. Either way- OOPS !) The thing is I don't have an emailed copy like usual to check what was sent to me ( I think I deleted it in a recent email purge!).
Turned out I was ALSO on the morning shift on Sunday!
Now I KNOW that originally when I saw the July schedule I was on that afternoon. I do distinctly recall cross checking when I work BEFORE signing up to help an elderly parishoner on Sunday mornings by giving him a ride to service.
So the good news/bad news was this:
So in the end I kinda was completely off the hook inadvertedly! Because I was not needed at 2:30 and it would have taken that long to drive home; well I just turned around ( we were on the road heading home) and drove RIGHT BACK to my kid's new apt to continue to give her more help and support getting it in shape.
I am so glad that worked out! I kinda felt bad just getting the stuff out of storage and rushing back to get to work! I felt like leaving her with all those boxes was very overwealming and also kida lonely to be alone and have to unpack and organize a new apt.
She was happy for the help of her sister and I.
She is a bit hesitant about finding a roommate to share the apt with due to her chronic illness. This kid of mine does faint from POTS a fair bit. I mean it is her norm...
That can be super scary for those not familiar with them.
She doesn't want a roommate who would call the ER in anxiety every time that happens! She needs a roommate rather comfortable with her chronic illness frankly-
so I get it... why it is a hard thing to be sure someone is the right fit as a roommate.
The imporant thing is that by getting a two bedroom she has control of who can move in to share with her- which is way better than her moving into another space to share with others already there. ( She can screen a roommate !)
AS we played cards in the afternoon, when needed a break from unpacking and then just enjoyed each other's company, I had the thought
The youngest who just graduated HS was the one helping. Surprising to me, both did not think it a bad idea.
It was nice to have such positive reception to that idea.
My kid actually said the one college there ( in the area) was on her list of schools she is interested in.
She is just so shy about entering new spaces. Even applying for a job has been an overwealming challenge for her. She doesn't like me helping her- but her relationship with her sister is different. I notice she will accept help from older siblings.
The older one is ALSO ADHD but has learned skills to manage. She was kinda pissed to share that her Dad recently said when she was little it seemed obvious she too had ADHD but it was expensive to get her tested and diagnosed so he didn't bother as had to in a sense triage and only seek that for the kids who were doing poorly- and the oldest was doing fine in school.
Funny he phrases it like that as when he tested the others they TOO were straight A students! HA he seemed to never have acknowledged that!
That is the weird part.
The older one, the teacher, was rather irritated to hear her ADHD was not deemed worthy of treating and finding her support for. She feels spurned and disreagarded a bit and a bit frustrated and resentful as she had to work her ass off to overcome so many challenges herself.
So I get her disappointment to hear that. I find it exceptionally frustrating and sad to hear as the reason he could not afford to treat all was sheer ego and stubborness!!
IT seems so much the same reasoning for dropping the now trans kid.
I mean more worry about how HE LOOKS if the reality of his kids not being the "perfect" image he wants them to be; than actual concern for his kids' well being.
SO yeah I get the teacher's anger at that comment he made.
I just recalled suggesting she might be "in the club" With her siblings as far as ADHD. I don't recall if her Dad ever shared that conversation he had with the Dr. with me at all!
Ce la vie... its all in the past now and we can't control what did happen or what did NOT but which we would have preferred DID Happen for each if us in the past.
Can only move forward.
So not sure an ADHD diagnosis will make much difference for her at this point in life.
It was a really good day ! Tired- but it was productive.
It feels silly financially to be making what is a DUMB financial move. I had 100% of that part time job going into a 401K. (negligible amt in scheme of things... I mean I make between 4 and 5K total a yr. After 5 yrs it will be then extra 25 K in my retirement fund)
But it is only a few hundred dollars a month currently of net earnings now that I shifted the money to go to my bank account rather than the 401K. I tried to make this change a few weeks back but the handler of the account is undergoing a change; so there was a black out period in which the old account owner would not make changes!
SO bummer was no live check this pay period. It all went into the 401K still!
I do have to file for unemployment.
So if I am allocated $337 a week ( hypothetically) for an amount of about $1300 in unemployment benefits...
I have to then deduct the $300 cash earned from the part time job and will get $1000 a month in unemployment benefits.
YET it just makes sense that with income drop I can't in actuality AFFORD to have money going to a 401K! NO I need that to pay the mortgage! YET it reduces the unemployment benefit dollar for dollar?
I just don't get it- makes NO fiscal sense.
In any case- I have to actually get a live check next payday! IF I don't I will be shy on the mortgage payment! So I have little choice just now.
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