2022-09-12 - 2:04 a.m.
Not a therapist
and the thing is
I watched my Ex (2nd) do that when his friend at work struggled with depression. I found it so self centered and really disappointing.
In dating relationships this is
It feels like the "emotional slut" behavior as coined by some writer where one acts like there is confidence and actual real deep friendship with trust so they will share something one typically doesn't share with just anyone which makes the other person feel really special; and then does foster some attachment.
OR what is considered physically slutty by some ( I hate the term slut as it is so non sex positive- and sometimes casual sex IS a mutually shared adult ok choice!) BUT where the term is appropriate is when one is the actual non ethical non monogomous- that is the actual slut
Whether the empotional slut only
Its the SELF SERVING going through behaviors and communication patterns learned
REALLY To just be self serving and hedonistic.
I think this person doesn't really attach emotionally prior to developement of a sexual relationship ( which is problematic as it encourages a kind of schism of separation of physial attachment being aligned with emotional attachment.)
SO I found it fascinating that my friend was discussing their relationship with their girlfriend and thinking that because she did not show grief and was willing to very quickly pivot to trying to carve out time of joy and shared intimacy with my friend by planning a romantic vaction that made him want to pull AWAY From her.
Seems clear projection on his part.
It also feels very self centered and narcissistic to me
But I am trying not to project....
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