2023-04-13 - 1:57 p.m.
People are such attention seeking idiots at times. I mean some people...
This gets me shaking my head
The question of how the gov screens for narcissism is one I seriously have.
I mean I swear there is a problem of those wanting to be important attracted to roles that in a better world would attract those who want to be of service.
Without the need for attention or kudos.
I think a desire for fair pay a distinctly different thing.
But again I feel like all service workers should be financially paid more and in general VALUED more by society.
I mean it is nonsense that those paid highest are often in entertainment. It just makes no sense.
I do think it great my son, who is an actor, finds it bizarre that actors are so revered in society.
Truth be told I get freaking ga ga... silly... I mean like fan girl silly when it comes to certain POETS.
heck we all have different values. YUP it is not realistic to expect to get all society to share and align by the same values-
BUT it has to be hard to accept the reality that not all who take jobs of service really are signing up for the altruistic purpose of wanting to serve others. SOME see those jobs the way I see the poet
and the way some see the actors
they want to be that revered person
they think their work and their access to information gives them STATUS.
So how does anyone screen for that kind of personality? for that kind of problem? (AS YES IT IS A PROBLEM A VULNERABILITY)
I don't know if anyone really knows the answer to this.
I mean who become politicians? That is perhaps one of the most CUSTOMER FACING positions of service, but come on, do most go into it because of desire to serve their communities?
Just struck me today. I suppose as I blew a job interview once asking the question "How do you screen for narcissists?"
And true it was a very IRISH PASSIVE AGRESSIVE Question
as the one particular interviewer rubbed me the wrong way. He was looking at my resume of actual service jobs and making faces of disgust when he saw I worked with immigrants.
I read him correctly. His body language
Suppose I FAILED the decorum, self control, and psychological testing of the interview process of how to handle when goaded.
But that was not really it.
I mean I was disgusted to see a few other OLDER workers
and when he was dismissive of any experience elsewhere. And when we were in a room full of 20 other new hires being onboarded and had invested days *(without pay) for the onboard training
Well I just felt that company culture was not the one for me.
I suppose that particular experience is on my mind as I recall the lady who WAS ready to take the low ball , bait and switch offer.
It was thirty thousand less than what I made when working at Verizon 15 or so years ago. Insulting.
The other lady took it. And I remember talking with her and her telling me that the difference was the few years older that she was. She was in her mid 50s. She talked of how once hit a certain age it is even hard to get interviews. ( she also was at the EPA and saw the writing on the wall so was smart to make a move when she did. That agency DID get gutted shortly thereafter!)
And I did get a better offer.
I guess I just thought of her and the other, not even old- I mean the guy was YOUNGER Than me but regardless being told his experience did not matter. I guess I just keep thinking of her and hope she has ROCKED that job, is still in it and has gotten raises and is comfortable and happy she took it. I think of the guy and AM SURE he was not given an offer as low as mine, There is NO DOUBT, but I am also rather sure that he like me had no thought of taking a job that was not paying his worth. He told me there was no way he would take it if they did not adjust the salary and stuck to what he hoped was a shitty starting negotiating position. I got the sense the ego on the other side of the table was not going to negotiate at all. ( It then played out very clear he was not going to. I mean there was not even respect of trying!)
I mean the final interviewer show sexism so maybe he did negotiate with the guy- but he also showed disdain for anyone with possible differing views on immigration policy than his own and was just fixed on the view of me based on that immigration work on my resume.
That is the thing
We can have different perspective and STILL come together to work together and support a shared and common vision and mission. We don't have to agree about EVERYTHING
Its the folks with narrow views who don't accept diversity who I think have been tearing apart the fabic of our democracy in recent years, or trying to.
That just makes me sad.
But in all seriousness also-
Why does this crap even make the news? Some idiot reveals secret info on a discord server to a couple dozen gamers. STUPID
But maybe not? But is this news? I mean I just wonder sometimes
I feel like maybe not?
Not to suggest control of information at all. Just--- discernment of when significant. I have to read the article more.
But if some braggart was sharing info on a discord with gamers
Just fire the dude.
but why the story?
True it is stupid
Just hope there was not actually any vulnerability.
EGOS are the biggest threat.
EGOS of folks who are yes, at some level narcissistic are our biggest threat. Those are the folks who can be sold. Those are the folks who WANT to be important.
So I again ask my question and think that is an important one to figure out:
"How do you screen for narcissists?"
Hell if I know even in my personal life. I just want to know so I stop DATING narcissistic men.
But someone better figure this out for our fed hiring.
It was terrific as a slogan of propaganda during war time.
I have a personal email I rarely use, but for FUN Things.
Just in clean up mode.
Time to walk the dog and enjoy this nice weather! Meeting friends to help with gardening and enjoy dinner. I asked "What can I bring?"
YES! I look forward to sharing a bottle of wine with some gardening friends over dinner.
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