2023-06-29 - 9:43 a.m.
I did go back and forth to home and did a few things:
I felt good- did not overdo it. In part as after I STARTED To I was able to call Gandalf and have him pick me up rather than hop off the bus CARRYING the laundry bag. I did manage to carry the one bag of laundry to the busstop near home and hopped on the bus then realized my plan of walking to his house with it was a bad idea. He was sweet and just came to pick me up once he was off a business call.
The wonderful thing is that it just so happens that his home is literally blocks away from a stop on the very bus that connects to my neighborhood. Its remarkable!
THE ADHD moment of that week for sure!
SO when I came back into town the following week, as had to stop into the Kia dealer and see what was going on with the car I then saw the MURAL in town which is at the end of Gandalf's street!
AND noticed the bus was driving down the street passing the very park where we had walked and shared our first kiss the weekend prior.
It was not that long after that soulful connection after talking almost all night long. We did sleep just a few hours (or tried). We had spent the night getting to know each other but Gandalf did not kiss me until we work to get up and take a walk to watch the sunrise.
Yesterday Gandalf suggested I borrow his car so that I could drive home and bring the completed laundry bag and take care of whatever errands I needed. It made it easier to drive over to the Kia dealer and talk to them.
The bad news about the KIA is that there IS documentation that they tested for the very thing that is wrong with the car at 150,000 something miles and show it PASSED The test.
I forget now BCT Bearing Clearnce Test? PASSED
I think that is what it said
What is crazy is that was at the OTHER Dealer where I told them the story and how it was BS that THIS dealer in town kept saying nothing was wrong when there is obviously something seriously wrong.
*Cause I knew it was not the sensor that was the problem.
BUT When I went to that dealer they are the ones who were telling me literally it would be dangerous for me to drive the freaking car AND who were ALSO pushing me to upgrade and just let it go and get a new car. They were as bad as the local dealer as they told me "your engine is shot; its beyond warranty and the car is likely going to break down"
The acted like the car would not drive at all
and I knew that was BS cause I was ALREADY driving with the same darn thing going on for a while by then.
MAIN POINT HERE They were Catastrophizing and using these fear tactics to try to push me to buy a freaking new car
So I guess the fact I got four more years out of the car is the win I need to be pleased with.
The local guy said having found that it is clear that will be the reason that HQ will not cover the engine ( as that documentation shows the problem -again after warranty up; and my refusal to do recommended service).
SO I need to Pull my Title and get ready to contact the car auctioners and sell the damn car-
This wonderful week with Gandalf may have been unsustainable to replicate in the long run- and we both know that, but the bubble of an anomoly has been just so wonderful and the timing could not have been better. I had the week in Fl where I was able to actually have bed rest then get up and walk a bit and go to dinner with my Dad and whole family- all six of my children! My oldest son brought his wonderful girlfriend as well. It was just such an incredible time and I am so happy we enjoyed our time together.
THEN I returned home to basically just come spend this week with Gandalf caring for me and resting and further healing when not back at work. I did have alot of work that first weekend back and it was so wonderful to have his care.
I have a light work load for clients this week; as far as deliverables. That gives me time today to work on one project of clean up, organization for the one client a bit. Almost done with that ongoing project.
I could go home now- imminently , as Gandalf has a medical appointment.
This man is so freaking incredible.
We both are getting STD tested and sharing results. YEAH! an older man , meaning a man MY AGE who is actually sexually responsible and open! I had scheduled a Dr. Appt on Tue and got that done. (The nurse practicioner I see is so wonderful! We had a great chat about dating, as often it is the younger men who GET IT. She is my age and her last boyfriend was 12 years younger than her but she like me agrees there are just other things that make it hard to have a relationship with a man that much younger work. Since she was STD testing me and I was speaking of my relationship, she said "I think it OK to have this conversation" prefacing her sharing with me talking about HER dating experience. I tell you she works all the time so has a hard time meeting people and said she went to a recent concert and was just shocked at how many people hit on her! She said there were guys like out of the woodwork hitting on her and she was so surprised the crowd was OUR AGE ! LOL She is a beautiful woman ! I think I commented be prepared as you will find guys AND gals flirting with you... ha ... seriously she will and she has not been out much . Old fashioned gal who as she said is working all the time! She loved hearing my love story. )
This man is by far the best lover,and that is while we have been tempering and holding back- well just blowing my mind frankly. We feel like teenagers! HA HA
So the absolute delightful surprise for me is just how physically compatibile we are, sexually compatible we are.
I mean neither of us were LOOKING actively for a partner.
I love that Gandalf has a Vision Board with GOALS. HE has all his projects and goals mapped out.
He also is the ADHD brilliant brain. He gets things done at the last minute. The ADHD habit of doing all the other stupid little shit and clearing what can before focus on the most important project resonates with me! HA HA I mean watching him work is so familiar.
He is good at his job. He has been in a stable job for 16 years with the same company and is rather senior. Its incredible to see his humility and watch his brilliance frankly.
I have found a genius man ( which is one thing I truly am attracted to) who is HUMBLE and kind and such a marvelous team player and well.... emotionally and financially stable. He is responsible.
When young Gandalf was a gamer. So he GETS it - the 20 something brain that is caught in that. He was the neurodivergent genius student who just bailed on class to play pool !(HA HA), and would show up for the test. I get it. He said in large part it is because when young he just got caught up in the moment and lost track of time- the severe 2e brain challenged by the ADHD brain not even getting the concept of TIME like the rest of the world. He like me had to learn skills to be responsible and successful.
For years he lived lean as as he said he actively tried to get rich before 40. HA HA I mean this man had the incubated start ups- various things created
He had developed products and negotiated with some of the big tech companies but never closed the deal. It is just so familiar. We can geek out ( and have) about fin tech... I mean it is wild to see him do the work on stories and requirments for his team and some of the granular data analytics work which is actually FAMILIAR to me! (Cause I worked in that world a bit. I mean that anomoly of a job for me was so fun as it was novel and I learned so much).
Gandalf still has one game he does use for his relaxation. ONE Game still plays- 10 min perhaps every few days for the dailys. LOL That made me laugh so hard but also makes me less WORRIED about them as he is evidence "the kids will be OK" in the long run. He speaks the same langauge of Gamer as my kids. They like him. He cares about learning about my family. When he comes over he delights in walking my dog while I do whatever I need. He waits outside until invited in. The kids are receptive and welcome to him coming into our world a bit which has not happened with ANYONE I dated in years.
The kids like interacting with him it seems. He will chat with them about games, etc.
Oh his hobbys include kayaking and hiking and biking.
Oh he has a whole INDIA Room, full of beautiful things from India. He has spent time there and it is a peaceful calm space with tapestrys and cusions and this man actually does Yoga. I mean for real how could I have found a man who does all the same freaking things I love?
His best friend is a fun Latino man that goes Latin DANCING and it was on his bucket list. I mean for real on his GOALS list of thing to try. LOL ( One of his besties of course encouraging him.) Its actually a funny syncronicity one of besties is Latinex as is mine. (Heck he was out with him and I was out with June when we met them out the first time we met to just go walking around town with them.)
I have not yet even described what his home looks like in detail but the mention of the India room was a hint. What I did not say is how it was so remarkable that when I walked in it was so
The level of cleanliness for example. SIMPATICO like the same kinda things that are important to him are the same ones important to me.
I mean for real I could not have dreamed to walk into this space and front and center, hanging on his living room wall is a tapestry from Senagal of the community gathering
We have listened to much music over the past week.
as I laid in the comfort of his embrace,
It was Papa
The unmistakable sound of his singularly unique playing. I have never been wrong before when hear a track and recognize Papa's playing.
It felt mystical and magical and like I was enveloped by the love of the universe in that moment.