2022-11-15 - 8:48 a.m.
OK It is MediCAID not Medicare-- I can't keep straight which is which.
This is why I failed the BAR exam as when a word is similar I have a hell of a time getting my memory to differentiate!
I was so perplexed as they make it really challenging to understand how Medical Care actually works in VA when given Medicaid cause they just send cards. NO additional information sent.
I swear once again, it it because either they are not funded adequately for need so resources are low
Such an illogical premise
SO we received MEDICAID cards in the mail.
The funny thing is I received them for the kids YEARS AGO at the time when their Dad was doing the funky drop kids off to me without their prescribed medication AFTER he had filled the controlled prescription.
to intentionally have his kids not medically stable to make sure he APPEARED to be the better parent through the divorce.
So fucked up.
But no more so than refusing to buy your kid glasses when you can afford to cause you think the other parent should hold their weight and do it
OR dropping your kid from your health insurance cause you don't agree with their identity as a trans person
I mean there are things one can't control. What another parent CAN or CANNOT do is not in your nexus of control so manipulating YOUR KID to try to get the other parent to do something is fucked up
But I can't control him.
We got cards in the past - Or rather I did for all four of the kids of the volatile divorce situation to ensure I could maintain their healthcare even when the payer of their insurance was blocking access to their meds.
BUT at that time it was really the ADHD med for ONE kid that was critical ( Turns out that is the autistic person as well.... so meltdowns were ALSO related to that-
It was so clear when I took Adderall that it did not work well for me.
so she actually just prescribed me the meds that my kid needed.
CRAZY To think I had that work around
I recalled that the Social Worker in our local DSS office granted SNAP then ( for the interim when not yet working post divorce til found job)
I got these cards for the kids but they were also enrolled in a Managed Care Organization- Kaiser
It all worked out.
I just found the handbook on line as to how it works as I was perplexed. This is hugely helpful to find! It has a provider search to see if a provider takes Medicaid.
I was perplexed why I could not pay my premium easily ( Maybe they paid it so I couldn't see it billed?)
So basically the reason it has been hard to find providers is not every provider takes Medicaid and my plan PURCHASED on the marketplace has been treated exactly like Medicaid.
SO the specialists the kid most needs will be seen tomorrow!
Today the kid goes to one specialist; then tomorrow that dysautonomia clinic for the POTS doctors.
This kid should then be taken care of- although asked to go to psychiatrist (DAMN that one is private pay. We tried others through insurance and they were not as good to be honest. Also trust is a key - the kid trusts this Dr.)
Which I hope they follow through and get done.
The other teen is stuck at that point .... with their goals it seems. But I can't make them let me help so they will have to get unstuck and move forward on their own time.
And do think giving a bit of grace for ONE YEAR post High School graduation reasonable.
This will not be forever... they each will figure it out.
* And they each DID Take SOME steps forward....albeit way the hell slower than I would have so I have trouble understanding...
* not abelist for sure
that is my one kids comment when I try to nudge
and it would in fact be ableism is I presumed they CAN'T Achieve
hell it would be ableist if I did not accept modifications and need to rest etc...
I mean sure when disabled need much rest. NEED to slow down
STOP is very different.
When you STOP all movement ; all effort
That is very distinct from REST and RECHARGE or heal
But is is?
OR NOT NEEDED
when can't see another's pain.
But the thing is I think if you have chronic pain you are going to feel that pain EITHER when moving or sedentary.
OK back to my to do today:
Wisdom teeth removal. Called the oral surgeon and asked about insurance but did not clarify is there is a DENTAL RIDER on the main insurance! So the oral surgon said does not take that kid's insurance but I am sure there is also a dental rider so the wrong question was asked! They did not RUN the insurance to see the rider...
OH good late enough now! I was just killing time WAITING for 8am as I was up at sunrise- 6:30ish I think? and it was too early to call these offices.
I did enjoy a nice morning walk of course with Bellatrix. Nippy out but the sunrise was lovely!
The transition is so late this year.
There was a neighbor lady who moved and while she was nice in many ways I am still a bit disappointed when I walk through the path between what was her house and the neighbor no the other side of the path that the thick mature vines that used to cover that fence are not there. They would turn colored in the fall and had wonderful smelling flowers in Spring and Summer. The vine was not honeysuckle, but another georgous flower that the lady who moved considered an invasive weed and hated. I don't even know the name of the plant; but I took cuttings and tried to transplant it in my back yard to replace the VERY invasive Virginia Creeper that I miss.
I mean I miss where the mature growth of Virginia Creeper has been on my porch. It covered the trellis that is there and created a beauiful privacy barrier and was actually really lovely where it was. It turned a glorious deep red- almost defiant- matching its stong personality with its boldness.
I do not love its transplants which were growing under the fence and into the neighbors lawn and emerging up their drainpipe ; or the offspring that came out of behind their siding and flourished one year reaching over with tendriles grasping on and clinging to my windows, intertwining among the screens.
And the neighbor did not apprechiate the growth of the plant on his roof and filling his gutters.
That plant was truly invasive and taking over the house. It had to be removed. It could not just be tamed and cut back
But that other vine..
well I have to let go and stop mourning its loss. But it was so missed this Spring and the shame of it is
The lady who complained and finally won her battle with the neighbor over it ( when it was not even adjacent to her yard! She just had to SEE it from her porch and backyard! there was a whole PATH between her back yard and the other neighbors!!)
That is the part that is painful. The kind neighbor's indulged her; when others here so enjoyed that vine- but we were silent
And don't even know its name.
Time to get up and get breakfast then make more calls.
I was looking at bank account and MAGS.COM had four charges for four magazine subscriptions.
Some so called " you have won" - the bullshit where you get "free" magazines but if you read the small print it is for a time and when that time expires by clicking YES you agree to the autorenewal at market rate.
I did intentionally want Poets and Writers Cheaper for the $3... but then I forgot to cancel or forgot I had already renewed Directly with Poets and Writers Mag
So y'all go to mags.com and put in your email to see if you have any surprise active subscriptions you want to cancel.
I bet a good percentage of folks who do this will find one! (HA)
BACK TO TO DO LIST
oh god help me if they do! HA HA
Where the hell did the PRIVATE Check box go? There used to be one on this entry page but it is no longer there.
The biggest challenge this AM is an ADHD one.
*Little nits... I can call both prescribing providers to find the practices and get it done.
4. Schedule FOOD allergy testing for youngest. She never had it done! With MCAS and food allergies in siblings, this is a good idea.
She refuses to see a psychiatrist to consider help as says doesn't need it. I say when in bed most of the day you DO need some help. She is resistant to therapy of the Psychiatrist and wish could convince her to do at least counseling. I think will again see if can find one that takes her insurance and
5. Schedule counseling appt. (If I can. She is now 18 so not sure I can!) If I can at least do the work ( again ) of finding practitioner and see if she will go if I get an appointment.
6. Find and schedule ENT for that kid too. Allergy treatment helping much but her Dad has deviated septum and she should be screened for it as well considering her loud snoring etc...
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